Open Letter from A Rainbow Place’s Executive Director to the metro Reno/Sparks LGBTQ community.

Brian Baxter invites all to visit ARP

By: Brian Baxter
August 10, 2008


A community center can be many things to many people. Before moving to Reno, my local LGBTQ community center was where I met my dearest friends, found support in our struggles for respect and fair treatment and gathered with others to rally and strengthen our resolve. It’s where I sat with movie stars, politicians and media bigwigs to discuss U.S. Supreme Court issues. It’s where I danced when I didn’t want the bar scene. This was also where all the information sources were. On many solemn occasions, it’s where we memorialized our fallen brothers and sisters; victims of hate-motivated violence, self-destruction and the AIDS pandemic. On it’s best day it hosted my wedding reception. Most of all, it was the safest place in town, day or night.

Upon arrival in Reno, my husband and I called several gay social networking organizations to see what was available in our new hometown. Ben Felix, of A Rainbow Place, was the only call returned. Ironically, when we went to meet Ben, the facility was being packed up by it’s founders, due to a crumbling building and an unresponsive landlord, and A Rainbow Place no longer had a home. It would be 9 months before they landed in the current facility on Vassar Street in late 2005. Sadly, though, many in the community mistakenly thought A Rainbow Place had permanently closed when the St. Lawrence Street location shut down.

In the following two years, A Rainbow Place would see a revolving door of staff, volunteers and board members coming and going, changes in ways we seek funding and much of the general disorder that comes with rebuilding a community center. Some community relationships and other crucial elements fell through the cracks, while other ideas and concepts came to fruition with the influx of new volunteers. One youth group moved on to another location while our current group continues to grow and thrive, peaking at 40 and counting.

On my first day in this position, I posted this statement throughout ARP and on the front door:
“A Rainbow Place strives to be a safe, secure environment where everyone can attain equitable access to information and services, expanded opportunities and an increased quality of life free of oppression and stigma. LGBTQ people are all too familiar with discrimination and hostility sometimes encountered in the greater community, and sadly, in their own community, too. We need to build ourselves up, not tear ourselves down. Please respect all who come through our doors.”
It may seem trite to some, but in a climate such as ours, we can ill afford to be ripping our community apart from the inside. I’m told there is a long history of that in northern Nevada, but I see a groundswell of strength within our growing community and A Rainbow Place is going to be a part of that groundswell.

It is now summer 2008. A Rainbow Place has endured the chaos of an unexpected move and changes in the staff and Board of Directors have settled. Accountability and responsibility are our internal goals, while service and a healthy community are our external goals. We have a fantastic collection of community-focused individuals on our ever-expanding Board. The state is admiring our devotion to our purpose and our lack of personal agenda and volunteers are returning in numbers unseen in the recent past.
Bridges are being rebuilt and relationships with other organizations and businesses continue to strengthen.

We are helping countless individuals with a variety of services. Our counseling services are gaining recognition in the community and our successes are nothing shy of wonderful and plentiful. We now have ‘A Life Worth Living’, a therapy-theater project and the annual Stonewall LGBTQ Community Picnic as well established events for the LGBTQ community. Our membership in the Northern Nevada Outreach Team is a proud standing for us, as we are always concerned with STD and HIV infection in the LGBTQ community and we are doing everything we can to educate the population on prevention behaviors and getting tested. We’ve begun a monthly Hepatitis C support group in association with the Nevada Hepatitis C Task Force. Our cyber-center is being utilized more and more by the general public and, as always, we offer a very comfortable lounge with coffee, popcorn, a large flat screen television and a broad LGBTQ video and print library.
Our intention is to remain available to everyone in our community and to stay on the ‘high road’ in all that we do. Again, our collective health is of utmost importance to A Rainbow Place, as we hope it is with the entire LGBTQ community of northern Nevada.

Understanding there may be a variety if public misperceptions about A Rainbow Place after all these years of change and flux, I encourage everyone to contact A Rainbow Place, directly, to learn more. Our new website, www.arainbowplace.org is updated at least twice a week and offers everything you need to know about us. Call us at 775-789-1780 to speak directly to staff or drop in anytime Tuesday through Saturday, 11:00am to 7:00pm to see our facility in action. We are located at 2890 Vassar Street, Suite B, in Reno, where Vassar Street hits the airport at the corner of Telegraph Street. We are also accessible by RTC RIDE bus #14 and #14-A.

I thank you for taking the time to learn about us. A Rainbow Place looks forward to a strong and healthy year for you and the community.

In closing, I make this final offer. If you have an idea for a support or social group, or if your group needs meeting space at any time, please let A Rainbow Place be host to your gathering. We have the space and facilities to ensure a comfortable and successful event.
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Brian Baxter
Executive Director
A Rainbow Place
www.arainbowplace.org


To respond without starting an argument, let me first say that your indignation is understandable. We should try to use our free time to help each other and our local organizations.

I am sadly not blessed with free time. I work 40 to 50 hours a week, have a small personal business on the side, live 20 minutes outside of town, and am responsible for my 8 year old son. I also truly wish that our community would spend slightly more time volunteering than drinking. But, happily, I was able to make the time to help at yourgayreno's booth during Pride. And being involved in an event that helps improve positive visibility felt SO great.

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RIGHT!! You been meaning to get out there.. A lot of the Reno gay community doesn't do anything, unless You count drinking and talking. We need to support groups like Rainbow Place and not just write letters. They need are support all year.

Yeah, that's a bit of a spanking, but it's true and we deserved it. Thank you Thomas for saying what needs saying, even if it may not be a sentiment that will be welcomed with open arms (and ears!).

I hope to visit A Rainbow Place in the near future, and this letter from them is to thank... I didn't know that they had relocated, and thought they were gone. So now that we know they're back, let's support them!

This website is the only reason that I am ever aware of what's going on around this town **smooches**

When I arrived in Reno I visited ARP and met Brian and Tom, who were very friendly and helpful. Soon the job I was promised evaporated and I found myself with lots of time on my hands. I subsequently volunteered at ARP because I believe in building community, and wanted to meet people outside the bars. My volunteer experience at ARP was very positive and I consider Brian and Tom to be friends and people committed to helping the LGBT community recover from its past disappointments.

Anybody reading this can dismiss my observations as those of a drifter, someone who has moved five times in as many years; or you can consider that I bring a new perspective having experienced gay life in San Francisco, Dublin, Ireland, Vancouver, BC, and in Montpellier and Lyon in France. And while I'm aware it's unfair to compare small Reno to a major metropolitan area, I have made allowances and yet offer the following insights:

1. Reno is a closeted town, but so was Dublin, which has more LGBT people than San Francisco, per capita. Among the Irish it's the result of homophobic violence and an evil Church, and I believe these are factors here as well. Camouflage has its advantages but its rare in cities where LGBT people live freely. Some of us must choose to whom we come out, and our timing, but too many here have no intention of ever doing so, especially the married men. Score that as a victory for our enemies, the people who wish us vulnerable if not dead. Yes, people, sometimes it's necessary to stand up and be counted.
2. There is a lack of community involvement in our own centre, and the slack seems to be taken up by the progressive straight community. While I welcome a diverse community I believe the LGBT of Reno needs to get over past disappointments and get involved, or the centre will someday close again, perhaps permanently. Do you really want to live in a town where a handful of taverns (some owned by straight people) defines solely who and what we are? Don't misunderstand me -- I think it's great that we enjoy good relationships with the larger progressive community, but we can't expect them to carry us forever. You have a large community centre open 6 days a week and it's often empty except for a few volunteers and those in crisis. This is a tragic waste of resources and a lost opportunity to build better relationships.
3. There are lots of lazy people here in Reno: sorry, but it's true. For example, it took the Grizzlies over 2 months to process my membership application, and there's no excuse for this.
4. Reno is very fickle and many in the community skip important LGBT functions, presumably because they have something better to do. Yeah, right, here in Reno; and this year's picnic was sparsely attended despite good food and great weather. Here's something to think about folks: San Francisco and NYC didn't magically sprout an organized gay community -- it took A LOT OF HARD WORK by dedicated people who put aside some time and energy to earn and assure their freedom. Sorry but it's not handed to you on a silver platter, and unless you take a little time to regularly visit ARP and make it YOUR community centre you can expect a future without it. Is that what you really want?
5. Scheduling Reno Pride during the hottest period of the year is stupid because who really wants to march in 100 degree weather? Just because some ignorant homophobes want us to go to hell doesn't mean we have to party when its even hotter than that. Why not intelligently choose a day in May or June when the weather's fine and more people can celebrate?

That's the dish, the slam, the whatever, offered in love and compassion and in the hope that some will wake up and stand up before it's too late.